Thankful Thursday #19

Gratitude is officially good for your mental health. (Harvard says so, so it must be true.) As a self-care practice, it’s great to record things you’re grateful for – big and small. So here’s Thankful Thursday – my list of things I’m grateful for this week. This week I’m thankful because: Pete finishes work for Christmas tomorrow. This gives us three days of quiet before the children break up. We intend to… View Post

Review | The selfish pig’s guide to caring

Caring for a family member is often hard work, usually unpaid, and can be overwhelming. This book is about having a life outside of that role so you don’t spontaneously combust under the pressure. Essentially: self-care for carers. How it started A colleague of Mumdrah’s read this book, Mumdrah put a photo of the cover on Twitter, and twenty minutes later I had seen some reviews, bought a paperback copy,… View Post

Adoption and the church thing

  I feel adrift. It’s 10.30 on a Sunday morning and, as a Christian, I would like to be at church. Building relationships. Supporting and being supported. Worshipping Jesus. Learning more about the Bible. Applying it to my life. That kind of thing. So would my husband. So would our children (mostly). But – and I say this without wanting it to sound as though I approach it as a… View Post

Self-care: medicating and pontificating 

I’ve spent quite a chunk of this week under my duvet dosed up with half a pharmacy. I’m inclined to call it flu rather than a cold because I usually battle on through colds but this whatever-it-is has floored me. I ache in weird places (not just sinuses and gums but also knees and toe joints). Bleugh. But while I’ve been otherwise out of action I have been writing a short… View Post

How knowing your personality type can help adoptive parents

I love personality tests. Always have. Turns out they also come in handy for adoptive parents when you’re trying to suss out your own foibles and how they affect the way you relate to others (spouses, children, friends, professionals…). And you can find hints about each type can best manage their self-care. Here are some of my favourites and how I use them. Myers-Briggs I’m an INTJ: Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging. This… View Post