The self-care book: update

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The work on my book The Seven Components of Self-Care continues. I am loving writing it and am excited (read: also mildly terrified) at the thought of getting it out there in the world. The book expands on the series of blog posts I wrote and includes tips and case studies and all the good stuff people said they wanted when they filled in my survey (more of that in a moment).

Case studies
I have a few ideas about people I think would make great case studies for certain sections of the book, but I also want to cast the net wide open and see if there are others who I’ve not encountered yet! I’d love to hear from you if you are an adoptive parent who makes a particular effort to include one or more of these things as part of looking after yourself:

You don’t have to have everything sorted, I’m not looking for perfection, just someone who has a plan of action of some kind and is working on putting it into practice. Do also please share this post with anyone else you think fits the bill and ask them to get in touch with me. You can do that through the comments below, or via Twitter, or by email. I’m really excited about sharing lots of people’s successful strategies with the wider adoption community so we can all find self-care that works for us.

Important note: don’t let concerns about privacy/security issues stop you taking part. I take that stuff seriously and will give you a pseudonym if you prefer. Any interviews will happen by email, partly because I am Just Not A Phone Person, and partly because you can then ‘hide’ behind whatever email address you want to use.

Survey results
I am so grateful to everyone who has taken the time to fill in my survey about what they want to see in this book. I have read every comment and taken it all on board and will do my best to meet expectations and fulfil wishes as far as possible. At the time of writing, I’ve had 70 responses, which I consider a great result. I’d still love to reach 100 to feel that I have a really broad set of opinions represented, so do please keep sharing the link: 

What have I learned from the survey? In summary:

  • Support and space are the most popular of the seven components.
  • People are more interested in practical tips than expert advice. Noted.
  • Everyone loves Sally Donovan’s books (me too).
  • There is very little self-care advice for adoptive parents available.
  • Guilt about taking time for self-care is a common issue.
  • The availability of appropriate/affordable childcare is a really big issue.
  • Many people find that ‘standard’ self-care advice doesn’t apply to adoptive families: it’s too idealistic, impractical, and patronising.
  • One person who completed the survey is really angry about my self-care book and wanted me to know that she would not be buying it. Noted. But also that X and Y are what should be in the book she’s not going to buy. Thanks for your feedback. 

For those of you who are starting a new term tomorrow, may you have happy manageable transitions! If, like our family, you still have another week to go, I hope your sanity is still intact, even if your chocolate supplies are depleted. Let’s do this.

PS Don’t forget to let me know if you (or a friend) could be a case study! Thanks. 😃



  1. Three Pink Diamonds
    12 April 2015 / 9:05 am

    Looking forward to having a read of this book.

    • 12 April 2015 / 9:15 am

      Thanks! I’ll be starting to talk to my first case studies tomorrow! Exciting…

  2. 13 April 2015 / 4:22 pm

    Sounds like a fantastic book – I hope you can find lots of people to help give you input. 🙂


    Jenna at Tinyfootsteps xx

  3. 13 April 2015 / 8:25 pm

    What an interesting topic. We often forget to take good care of ourselves, so it’s good thing to be reminded sometimes! Getting enough sleep is probably the hardest one for me! There’s never enough time or to much things to do in a day… which makes me think of another important facet of taking care of oneself: “learning to say no!”

    I am glad I found your blog through the #mummymondays link up

    Cheers from Uruguay

  4. 14 April 2015 / 8:23 pm

    Sarah and I set up The Adoption Social to build a support network around an already successful #WASO, so if we can help with a case study please do let us know.

    And thanks also for linking this post to #WASO. Looking forward to reading the book x

    • 14 April 2015 / 9:53 pm

      Ooh, I’d love to talk to you about support. I’ll drop you an email. Thanks!

  5. 16 April 2015 / 1:39 pm

    Sounds like a great book. I think when we become parents or when life gets in the way and takes over taking care of ourselves just never seems to be number one. But it completely should be as if we aren’t on top form we can’t give everything else in life a good go! Thanks very much for linking up #MummyMonday host xx

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