We are now 24 hours in to the summer holidays and things are more or less on track.
The girls have now been with us for four Julys. We have established that Joanna in particular Does Not Like Them, and that the last day of the school year is especially hard for her as she says goodbye to her teachers.
- First year: Bit her nursery key worker and hit some other staff as a statement of ‘I’m going to reject you before you “reject” me’.
- Second year: Cried at bedtime for a week when she left her reception teacher.
- Third year: Cried as soon as she was out of sight of school and at bedtime for three days because she missed everyone.
- This year: 20 seconds of crying outside school, much sobbing and clinginess at bedtime on day one… we’ll see how long it lasts.
We always skip the leavers’ assembly in order to avoid prolonging the goodbyes, so I collected them from school at 1.30, emergency calming-down bubbles on hand (but not deployed), and whisked them off to Sainsbury’s for a bit of distraction. They chose some new crayons to take on holiday and some ice creams, then we went home, they ate the ice creams, and I revealed that I had added Madagasgar (an old favourite) and Gangsta Granny (which is Joanna’s class’s first topic next year) on to their Kindles. They promptly plugged in for two hours, suitably happy and distracted. Parenting win.
Joanna (age 7) can read this and understand it well, and I create it primarily for her benefit so that she knows that there is a plan.
Charlotte (age 6) struggles with the concept of time, frequently mixing up ‘yesterday’ with ‘tomorrow’ or ‘three days’ and ‘three weeks’. This schedule doesn’t completely solve the problem but it does help as a tool for explaining (repeatedly!) how many days there are until we go swimming, etc.
I don’t stick to it rigidly, and I don’t include a lot of detail that is likely to change, but the stuff that’s booked up in advance is enough to give us a sense of structure and sanity, and this really helps with the transition from school time to holiday time.
You can download a copy to customise and use yourself from my resources page.
Tomorrow: the ‘magic’ activity chooser.