10 ways to help an adoptive family

Are you an adoptive parent who is struggling to cope but doesn’t know quite how to ask friends and family for help? Or are you someone who wants to know how to support an adoptive family but isn’t sure quite what to say? Help is at hand. Ready? Here are 10 ways to help an adoptive family. This is another one of those embarrassing topics that make everyone feel a bit… View Post

Why I’m an adoptive parent

I wrote this post a couple of years ago for another blog, and someone asked me about it recently, so here it is again. Our family is going through a tough time at the moment (more on that here) and I’ve found it helpful to read this again and remember why we chose to adopt. On being unusual When my husband and I told our assessing social worker that we hadn’t… View Post

Letterbox contact: a template letter

The annual letterbox contact letter to your child(ren)’s birth family can be difficult to write. How do you sum up a year in a page or two? How much information do you share, and what do you withhold? Here’s an example, with a downloadable template you can use for yours.… View Post

Not-so-secret weapons: the ten transition-time tools I keep in my bag

When we were preparing to meet our children, I remember ceremoniously swapping my compact handbag (which typically contained keys, wallet, phone, and maybe a lip balm and a book) for The Mum Bag, which was comparatively cavernous and contained everything from nappies to plasters to finger puppets via emergency chocolate (yes, that last one one was mainly for me). As the girls have got older, the contents of my bag have… View Post

A typical day in the Meadows household

It’s now three years since we got our adoption order, and our post-adoption support is about to transfer from the placing authority to our local authority. We’ll be asking for another formal assessment of our family’s support needs and so I’m putting together some documents to show what support we want and why we need it. This ‘day in the life’ is one of those. 6.00ish The girls wake up. Our rule is… View Post