How knowing your personality type can help adoptive parents

I love personality tests. Always have. Turns out they also come in handy for adoptive parents when you’re trying to suss out your own foibles and how they affect the way you relate to others (spouses, children, friends, professionals…). And you can find hints about each type can best manage their self-care. Here are some of my favourites and how I use them. Myers-Briggs I’m an INTJ: Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Judging. This… View Post

Hello, goodbye

It’s been a week of beginnings and endings. Tuesday: Hello, new therapist  On Tuesday, after a few false starts, I finally had a first session with a therapist. I’d had about four sessions with a PAC counsellor a couple of years ago and found it immensely frustrating – it was a 45 minute drive away, and the counsellor wanted to give me parenting tips rather than talk about my own… View Post

A self-care playlist

As part of choosing a word for the year to encapsulate my plans and aspirations (more about my word for 2017 here), I like to put together a playlist. It remains a work in progress throughout the year, but is something I can put on in the car, or when I’m sitting at my desk feeling a bit meh, or am generally in need of a bit of uplifting something-or-other or want… View Post

Review: Self-regulation Strategies and Techniques 

Joanna’s therapist lent us this DVD. I was hopeful. The presenter is an occupational therapist and it says it addresses the sorts of issues we see most days. I was going to write an upbeat review of how it was going to be life-changing for our family. No. Not so much.  Warning: sarcasm follows. There are a couple of small things I’d be happy to give a try, but overall… View Post

Self-care check-in

Checking in after week one of my 2017 self-care plan. How are you doing with yours? Around here it’s so far, so good. I’ve made an appointment with a counsellor for next week to talk about how she might be able to help me handle the stress of (a) adoptive parenting/secondary trauma/CPV and (b) dealing with post-adoption support and their systematic removal of all the support we were previously receiving,… View Post