10 ways I am slacking as a parent in the name of self-care

Melissa Corkum posted this week about how she is ‘slacking’ as a parent for the sake of her sanity. Also how this is OK because no one is suffering as a consequence and actually it is all completely fine. She’s encouraging others to do the same, and I am very much on board. I love this idea of posting about the stuff we’re not doing, in the name of self-care. So, here’s my December contribution to the #mommyslacker revolution.

December Slacking

Things I have not done

  1. I have not written a single Christmas card yet.
  2. We are still undecided about whether we are going to write our Christmas newsletter (usually a mildly sarcastic antidote to all the saccharine nonsense about little Jacinta having passed grade 8 piano at age 4, it has traditionally been a highlight of our Christmas preparations and properly laid out in InDesign, because we are publishing/media types). It’s normally printed by now.
  3. The tree is not up. (It’s only not in the loft because we put it in a cupboard in January and it has stayed there all year.)The tree is not up. (It's only not in the loft because we put it in a cupboard in January and it has stayed there all year.) Click To Tweet
  4. I have not taken a festive family photo/made a snowman (no snow here, which didn’t help)/bought the family matching Christmas pyjamas for photographic purposes, despite everything on my Facebook feed.
  5. 10 ways I am slacking as a mumI have not taken the children shopping so they can buy presents, despite their requests. (This can wait until they have finished school.)
  6. I have not posted Christmas presents to overseas destinations before the last posting date. (They will still get there.)
  7. I have not done any baking with the children. (I bake to relax. Suffice it to say their presence does not contribute to this state of mind.)
  8. I have not done any Christmas crafts with the children. (Because it is easier to make them a hot chocolate and put a DVD on than concern myself with who is throwing scissors at whom, and how to get glitter glue out of the carpet.)
  9. I have not washed any of the bedding in the house for over a month. (No one has contracted a major illness yet.)
  10. I have not got one of those elves on shelves. Our children have known the truth about Father Christmas since they were in foster care, so it seems a bit pointless as well as a big old faff to voluntarily create a new mess to clear up every morning. Who has time for that?
I have not got one of those elves on shelves. It seems a big old faff to voluntarily create a new mess to clear up every morning. Who has time for that? Click To Tweet

Meanwhile…

I have had a couple of coffee dates with Pete after the 8am school run, did manage to go out for lunch with him without the children last weekend, am working my way through series 2 of Elementary in the evenings, am taking part in December Daily for my own enjoyment and did have a pyjama day while Pete and the girls were out on Sunday. So there. #selfcarewins

What about you?

Want to join in? The hashtag for Instagram and Twitter is #mommyslacker, or click on the badge below if you want to link up your blog about slacking off. Thanks Melissa for the great idea!

 

 Mommy Slacker | December 2017

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3 Comments

  1. 12 December 2017 / 1:21 pm

    We’re totally NOT doing any of those things too! #totalsolidarity! Thanks for participating!

  2. Rosemary
    12 December 2017 / 8:41 pm

    Great post! And a great idea. Reducing your load is so important, and we do need to encourage one another to do less.

  3. Jayne
    12 December 2017 / 9:00 pm

    This is us too. I have learnt to have no expectations as November and December are horrendous months with little structure at school so our youngest is a wild ball of rage every hour at home. Exhausted is not the word

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