Your self-care questions answered

I asked you for your self-care questions, and you shared your particular challenges, particularly around common themes of time, childcare, guilt, and healthy self-care. Here I share some of the solutions that my family use to carve out self-care time and get a break from the craziness of adoptive family life.… View Post

Dysregulation and the lollipop experiment

It’s been suggested that sucking lollipops can help with self-regulation, so we’ve been conducting ‘the lollipop experiment’ – providing lollies whenever we think our children have needed help with getting into that ‘just right’ zone of regulation. Here are the results.… View Post

Writing to professionals: 7 tips for getting action

Getting professionals to listen to you when you need their help is a common battle for adoptive parents. To give your communication the best chance of being heard, try these 7 tips to make your letter or email as powerful as possible.… View Post

How to find great adoption resources on Pinterest

I love Pinterest. It’s a self-curated search engine for your own specific interests. Lots of parents use it for craft activities, recipes, or home decor ideas, but Pinterest is also a great place to file all the useful adoption resources you find online so that you can find them again when you need them. Here’s how I use it, and a quick guide to getting you up and running.… View Post

CPV: Another desperate letter to post-adoption support

It’s been an exceptionally hard weekend. Today, after another epic violent meltdown, I wrote this email to our post-adoption support team, outlining both the violence and how we feel about our diminishing ability to cope as the severity increases. It seems nothing is working, the help is always excruciatingly slow in coming, and meanwhile we are in the front line, being pelted with our own shoes. Here’s what I wrote…… View Post