The children are bouncing off the walls, the relatives are inadvertently contributing to your stress levels, and the presents you bought online still aren’t here, let alone wrapped. You feel like hibernating until January with all the mince pies and chocolates and only emerging once everyone’s back to normal. Or is that just me? The Christmas holidays can be hard for adoptive families. There are strong emotions flowing and so many… View Post

You know an adoptive family. Maybe they’re a part of your extended family. Perhaps they’re your friends or neighbours. You want to help, but you’re worried about doing the wrong thing and putting your foot in it. But unless the adoptive family in question is quite unusual, they are likely to be delighted with any expression of desire to help out. So go for it. With just a few adoption-friendly… View Post

Today marks the halfway point of the summer holidays for us: it’s day 20 of 40. It feels like much longer. The words I’m seeing from other adopters are ‘relentless’ and ‘incessant’. These words are used all year round, of course, but the summer seems to amplify those feelings because culturally it is supposed to be a holiday. It isn’t. It’s six weeks of dysregulated children being given nice things… View Post

Now the summer holidays are well underway, are you running out of ideas to keep the children busy? Don’t panic! Here are 50 of my favourite sanity-saving holiday activities. Visit the library. Build Lego models. Go hunting for new games in the charity shops. Make a den under the table/behind the sofa. Decorate the path/patio with chalk. Have scooter races. Write postcards to your family and friends. Make junk models… View Post

Clothes… suncream… weighted blanket? What are your essentials when taking anxious children away from home? As the school holidays get underway, here’s an updated post from the archives for those about to embark on holidays with adopted children. Here goes… We’re off on holiday this weekend and the packing is underway. It’ll be our fifth holiday with the girls and I have a mental list of things we need to… View Post