Adoptive parents: survival mode, stress, and coping strategies

Many adoptive parents feel that they are constantly living in survival mode. We lurch from one crisis to the next, while trying to set up and maintain a network of support around our children and deal with whatever shenanigans they’ve got themselves into. It’s stressful, and that stress affects us in a range of ways. Find out more about the impact of stress and how to fight back.… View Post

Review | Neurodiversity

Barb has autism, and Lois is her therapist. Neurodiversity is their story. And it’s great. It’s not a word I use often, but I think it’s fitting here. This book is a romp through the authors’ various neurodiverse experiences, both personal and professional. These include autism (this is the main focus of the book), ADHD, anxiety, dyslexia, and being gay. It doesn’t sound like hilarious subject matter, and at times it… View Post

10 mental health challenges for adoptive parents

It’s Mental Health Awareness Week. To mark the occasion, and because I believe that the mental health of adoptive parents is both (a) critical to the success of adoptive placements and (b) massively overlooked and under-resourced, here are my 10 mental health challenges for adoptive parents. Keep reading below for my five possible solutions, and my rallying call for a new campaign. 10 mental health challenges These are just some of… View Post

How to find an SEBD school: the fight begins

Where on earth do you start when you realise your child’s behaviour has reached a point where you need to accept a label of SEBD (social, emotional and behavioural difficulties) or SEMH (social, emotional, and mental health) issues and start to find an SEBD school? This is where we now find ourselves. The latest fight for the right support has begun. Monday: transition planning On Monday, we had an INSET… View Post

Review | The selfish pig’s guide to caring

Caring for a family member is often hard work, usually unpaid, and can be overwhelming. This book is about having a life outside of that role so you don’t spontaneously combust under the pressure. Essentially: self-care for carers. How it started A colleague of Mumdrah’s read this book, Mumdrah put a photo of the cover on Twitter, and twenty minutes later I had seen some reviews, bought a paperback copy,… View Post