Adopters versus professionals: 7 bonkers weeks (and counting)

You’ll have noticed that things have been quiet around here for a few weeks. Things have been a bit bonkers, to be quite honest. We’ve dealt with an exclusion from school, a stressful and frankly insane child protection meeting, all manner of ridiculous allegations from social workers about our ‘refusal to cooperate’, ongoing dealings with SEN about the girls’ EHCPs, and no real support from any of the professionals, including… View Post

The 9 self-care strategies I’m using right now

Our mental health is taking a battering, what with the constant physical and verbal abuse from the children, the lack of support, and having a long-term argument with SEN about the right school for Joanna. Here are the self-care strategies I’m using to fight for my sanity and well-being.… View Post

Post-adoption support and the safe holding debate: an update

Eighteen months ago, I wrote an account of the handover of post-adoption support from our daughters’ placing LA to our own LA, three years after the adoption order was granted. I discussed the lack of understanding that we had experienced when we asked for safe holding training in the face of frequent child to parent violence. The experience was horrible and made me physically ill. We lived in fear of safeguarding proceedings for weeks. I think it’s time for an update.… View Post

Parenting autistic children: 17 things I’ve learnt this week

It’s been a week since our 8-year-old daughter Charlotte was diagnosed with autism. I’ve been reading about it to try to understand as much as I can. The lightbulb moments keep on coming. Turns out parenting autistic children and therapeutic parenting of adopted children are pretty similar, but there’s still a whole load of stuff to find out about.… View Post

The FASD clinic: 1 child, 2 days, 3 diagnoses

We had previously believed all Charlotte’s difficulties and behaviours were a combination of attachment and trauma. No doubt they play their part, but the whole picture of what is going on in her head is now both more clear and more complicated. In some ways, with all this new information to find and take in, I feel as though I’ve landed on the moon and I don’t have a map yet.… View Post