Our mental health is taking a battering, what with the constant physical and verbal abuse from the children, the lack of support, and having a long-term argument with SEN about the right school for Joanna. Here are the self-care strategies I’m using to fight for my sanity and well-being.… View Post

We had previously believed all Charlotte’s difficulties and behaviours were a combination of attachment and trauma. No doubt they play their part, but the whole picture of what is going on in her head is now both more clear and more complicated. In some ways, with all this new information to find and take in, I feel as though I’ve landed on the moon and I don’t have a map yet.… View Post

Which of us, despite our best therapeutic parenting intentions, hasn’t occasionally (or more than occasionally) lost the plot with our children when things have all gone pear-shaped? Ellie Jelly and the Massive Mum Meltdown is ‘a story about when parents lose their temper and want to put things right’. Read my review.… View Post

I’ve come to the conclusion that adoptive families are like the TARDIS: bigger on the inside. To an extent that’s part of being human (or Timelord) – but there’s more than average ‘on the inside’ that goes unseen or un-thought-about by those outside adoptive family life. Is that true for your family too?… View Post

I asked you for your self-care questions, and you shared your particular challenges, particularly around common themes of time, childcare, guilt, and healthy self-care. Here I share some of the solutions that my family use to carve out self-care time and get a break from the craziness of adoptive family life.… View Post