Review: How to talk so kids will listen

I read this book primarily because I am taking part in the newly-formed therapeutic parents’ book club (#tpbooks), which was initiated by @PedallingSolo on Twitter. (Genius idea. Come and join us. More of that in a moment.) The premise of the book is that we can improve communication with our children by going about the whole business a bit differently. It’s not adoption-specific, but nor is it full of the sort… View Post

10 ways to help an adoptive family

Are you an adoptive parent who is struggling to cope but doesn’t know quite how to ask friends and family for help? Or are you someone who wants to know how to support an adoptive family but isn’t sure quite what to say? Help is at hand. Ready? Here are 10 ways to help an adoptive family. This is another one of those embarrassing topics that make everyone feel a bit… View Post

Letterbox contact: a template letter

The annual letterbox contact letter to your child(ren)’s birth family can be difficult to write. How do you sum up a year in a page or two? How much information do you share, and what do you withhold? Here’s an example, with a downloadable template you can use for yours.… View Post

Not-so-secret weapons: the ten transition-time tools I keep in my bag

When we were preparing to meet our children, I remember ceremoniously swapping my compact handbag (which typically contained keys, wallet, phone, and maybe a lip balm and a book) for The Mum Bag, which was comparatively cavernous and contained everything from nappies to plasters to finger puppets via emergency chocolate (yes, that last one one was mainly for me). As the girls have got older, the contents of my bag have… View Post

The back-to-school letter to teachers

At the start of every school year, (or if we’re very organised, the end of the previous one) we write a letter to the girls’ new teachers, filling them in on their background and giving them information on things that the girls are likely to find helpful and unhelpful. This ensures they have at least had the opportunity to gather information, talk to us, and prepare. Here’s one of this… View Post