It’s been suggested that sucking lollipops can help with self-regulation, so we’ve been conducting ‘the lollipop experiment’ – providing lollies whenever we think our children have needed help with getting into that ‘just right’ zone of regulation. Here are the results.… View Post

It’s been an exceptionally hard weekend. Today, after another epic violent meltdown, I wrote this email to our post-adoption support team, outlining both the violence and how we feel about our diminishing ability to cope as the severity increases. It seems nothing is working, the help is always excruciatingly slow in coming, and meanwhile we are in the front line, being pelted with our own shoes. Here’s what I wrote…… View Post

Many adoptive families experiencing child-to-parent violence (CPV) speak in glowing terms about Non-Violent Resistance (NVR). Words such as ‘life-changing’ are used – which certainly got my attention. I asked NVR trainer and adoptive mum Sarah Fisher to tell me more.… View Post

Many adoptive parents feel that they are constantly living in survival mode. We lurch from one crisis to the next, while trying to set up and maintain a network of support around our children and deal with whatever shenanigans they’ve got themselves into. It’s stressful, and that stress affects us in a range of ways. Find out more about the impact of stress and how to fight back.… View Post

In the next few weeks, I’ll be developing my resources page into a series of pages with content that’s wider-ranging and more useful to adoptive parents. I’ll be creating pages with free printable downloads to make them easier to share with those who support you (and those you would like to provide support). Here’s a taster of a work in progress: a quick guide to the resources that are available… View Post