It’s World Mental Health Day. I’m reblogging this post – first published in May for Mental Health Awareness Week – because I still feel exactly the same way. Let’s take action and let adoption and mental health organisations know that there is a need for specialist services to address the specific mental health challenges adoptive parents face. I believe that the mental health of adoptive parents is both (a) critical to… View Post

Last week was a good week for media coverage of CPV. It helps when you can, as shorthand, say ‘Please listen to last night’s File on 4‘ when you want someone to understand a bit of what it’s like to live with the verbal and physical torrent that pours out of our children. I appreciate that people in positions of power are starting to listen. I’m grateful for media coverage… View Post

I’m an adoptive parent who is quite vocal on the subject. So every now and then I’m approached by friends, or friends of friends, asking about my advice for prospective adopters as they are starting the process. I’m always happy to talk adoption, don’t claim to have all the answers, but do have a few pieces of advice. I wish I’d had this stuff drummed into me when we started the… View Post

At the end of August I participated in a self-care camp run by The Open Nest and The Adoption Social. There’s a piece about it in the October 2017 issue of Adoption Today, which is hitting doormats this weekend. Here’s the longer version of the article I wrote. The Open Nest and The Adoption Social are both legendary in adoption circles as safe spaces for adoptive families to be themselves… View Post

Today marks the halfway point of the summer holidays for us: it’s day 20 of 40. It feels like much longer. The words I’m seeing from other adopters are ‘relentless’ and ‘incessant’. These words are used all year round, of course, but the summer seems to amplify those feelings because culturally it is supposed to be a holiday. It isn’t. It’s six weeks of dysregulated children being given nice things… View Post