Our mental health is taking a battering, what with the constant physical and verbal abuse from the children, the lack of support, and having a long-term argument with SEN about the right school for Joanna. Here are the self-care strategies I’m using to fight for my sanity and well-being.… View Post

It’s been an exceptionally hard weekend. Today, after another epic violent meltdown, I wrote this email to our post-adoption support team, outlining both the violence and how we feel about our diminishing ability to cope as the severity increases. It seems nothing is working, the help is always excruciatingly slow in coming, and meanwhile we are in the front line, being pelted with our own shoes. Here’s what I wrote…… View Post

In January, our nine-year-old daughter, Joanna, wrote to The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry to ask if Heads Together would address the issue of adoptive children’s mental health. On Saturday she had a reply from Kensington Palace. I’d love to know what you think.… View Post

Many adoptive families experiencing child-to-parent violence (CPV) speak in glowing terms about Non-Violent Resistance (NVR). Words such as ‘life-changing’ are used – which certainly got my attention. I asked NVR trainer and adoptive mum Sarah Fisher to tell me more.… View Post

In the next few weeks, I’ll be developing my resources page into a series of pages with content that’s wider-ranging and more useful to adoptive parents. I’ll be creating pages with free printable downloads to make them easier to share with those who support you (and those you would like to provide support). Here’s a taster of a work in progress: a quick guide to the resources that are available… View Post