The end-of-term transition anxiety has kicked in here this week. The dysregulation has moved up several notches. Both the girls are tired. There have been lots of tears and slammed doors and shouting about how terrible we are followed by apologies and more tears and cuddles and a bit more wailing and then calm (more-or-less). Time to break out a few more of my tried and tested sensory activities to… View Post

How do other adoptive parents juggle all the stuff that we are expected to cope with? How does anyone cope with all the advocacy and admin and energy required for parenting two or more children with additional needs of any kind? This week I am really feeling the resulting headspin. My brain has way too many tabs open – too much stuff pending. Too many forms, and emails, and meetings, and… View Post

Having started the fight to get Joanna into a specialist school in the last couple of weeks, we’re keen to keep up the momentum and arm ourselves with plenty of first-hand knowledge from Actual Visits so we can make the best possible case to the SEN panel. And here is where it begins: my 30 questions to ask SEBD schools. They want paperwork, they’re going to get paperwork. I’m going to… View Post

Charlotte (age 7) is struggling with eye contact. And therefore so are we. Is it an attachment issue, FASD, or even autism? How concerned should I be? And should I be starting the fight for yet another assessment? Where do I start to find out? What information is there about eye contact in adopted children? Here’s what I found out. Not today, thank you It’s hard to know what Charlotte wants at… View Post

My daughter Charlotte is a chewer and a world-class fidgeter (in polite company, a ‘sensory seeker’). If you have a child with similar sensory issues, you may have found that there are a lot of ideas and products about to try. Here are the sensory toys that have worked for us.       1. The Chewbuddy Some parents and OTs talk about the Chewbuddy as though it is magic. It’s… View Post