Adopters versus professionals: 7 bonkers weeks (and counting)

You’ll have noticed that things have been quiet around here for a few weeks. Things have been a bit bonkers, to be quite honest. We’ve dealt with an exclusion from school, a stressful and frankly insane child protection meeting, all manner of ridiculous allegations from social workers about our ‘refusal to cooperate’, ongoing dealings with SEN about the girls’ EHCPs, and no real support from any of the professionals, including… View Post

The 9 self-care strategies I’m using right now

Our mental health is taking a battering, what with the constant physical and verbal abuse from the children, the lack of support, and having a long-term argument with SEN about the right school for Joanna. Here are the self-care strategies I’m using to fight for my sanity and well-being.… View Post

Review | Ellie Jelly and the Massive Mum Meltdown

Which of us, despite our best therapeutic parenting intentions, hasn’t occasionally (or more than occasionally) lost the plot with our children when things have all gone pear-shaped? Ellie Jelly and the Massive Mum Meltdown is ‘a story about when parents lose their temper and want to put things right’. Read my review.… View Post

Your self-care questions answered

I asked you for your self-care questions, and you shared your particular challenges, particularly around common themes of time, childcare, guilt, and healthy self-care. Here I share some of the solutions that my family use to carve out self-care time and get a break from the craziness of adoptive family life.… View Post

CPV: Another desperate letter to post-adoption support

It’s been an exceptionally hard weekend. Today, after another epic violent meltdown, I wrote this email to our post-adoption support team, outlining both the violence and how we feel about our diminishing ability to cope as the severity increases. It seems nothing is working, the help is always excruciatingly slow in coming, and meanwhile we are in the front line, being pelted with our own shoes. Here’s what I wrote…… View Post