CPV: Another desperate letter to post-adoption support

It’s been an exceptionally hard weekend. Today, after another epic violent meltdown, I wrote this email to our post-adoption support team, outlining both the violence and how we feel about our diminishing ability to cope as the severity increases. It seems nothing is working, the help is always excruciatingly slow in coming, and meanwhile we are in the front line, being pelted with our own shoes. Here’s what I wrote…… View Post

The Adoptive Parents’ Self-Care Club

I now have a rather marvellous new members’ Facebook group as well as the public page. Exciting! The Adoptive Parents’ Self-Care Club Facebook group is a place to talk more about self-care and to cheer each other on. There are questions to discuss, mini self-care challenges, and all sorts of self-care shenanigans to encourage you to look after yourself. Come and join in!… View Post

Is it really self-care if you don’t like it?

I recently posted a picture on Instagram of a packet of camomile tea, saying that I was trying to take it up because I thought it would be good for me, despite the fact that I currently don’t like tea of any kind. Someone questioned whether it is really self-care if you don’t like it. I have a lot of thoughts about this topic. Not just the tea, but about non-enjoyable self-care. I like cake as much as the next person, but I’m also a big advocate for the stuff that’s often called ‘boring self-care’. Here’s why.… View Post

It’s #TimetoTalk about adoptive families’ mental health

It’s time for #mentalhealth and #adoption charities to talk about how they can work together to address adoptive families’ mental health. #TimetoTalk… View Post

Adoptive parents: survival mode, stress, and coping strategies

Many adoptive parents feel that they are constantly living in survival mode. We lurch from one crisis to the next, while trying to set up and maintain a network of support around our children and deal with whatever shenanigans they’ve got themselves into. It’s stressful, and that stress affects us in a range of ways. Find out more about the impact of stress and how to fight back.… View Post