Review | The Special Parent’s Handbook

From food issues to advocating for your child, via handling meltdowns and battling with paperwork, The Special Parent’s Handbook addresses everything with the humour and practical advice that comes from hard-won first-hand experience. Whether your child’s issues are physical, mental, or emotional/behavioural, there is something here for you.… View Post

Thank God It’s Monday: adoptive parenting at the weekend

It’s another of those things that separates me from the other parents at the school gate. On the rare occasions that I find myself engaged in a conversation outside school and not ducking in early to retrieve Joanna after some misdemeanour, someone will inevitably pipe up ‘nearly the weekend’, with a sense of joyous anticipation. I don’t share it. ‘That Friday feeling’ for me is one of dread. Welcome to… View Post

Review | The selfish pig’s guide to caring

Caring for a family member is often hard work, usually unpaid, and can be overwhelming. This book is about having a life outside of that role so you don’t spontaneously combust under the pressure. Essentially: self-care for carers. How it started A colleague of Mumdrah’s read this book, Mumdrah put a photo of the cover on Twitter, and twenty minutes later I had seen some reviews, bought a paperback copy,… View Post

Rage and me, the human sponge

Adoptive parenting: sometimes it feels as though you live in a parallel universe. I don’t think most people realise that this is our reality: frequently dysregulated and violent children; a lack of support; and after having tried everything you can possibly think of, still feeling helpless to make anything change for the better. And still they rage. The door This was our bedroom door at 9.45 this morning (Saturday). We… View Post

My self-care week

With Pete away, a hundred school Christmas activities both during and after school hours, work deadlines and Christmas to organise, not to mention being full of a cold, I’ve had to prioritise getting a dose of self-care every day in order to continue to function when I really wanted to hibernate. Here’s what self care has looked like for me this week. Online shopping: I hardly do any shopping in… View Post