At the end of August I participated in a self-care camp run by The Open Nest and The Adoption Social. There’s a piece about it in the October 2017 issue of Adoption Today, which is hitting doormats this weekend. Here’s the longer version of the article I wrote. The Open Nest and The Adoption Social are both legendary in adoption circles as safe spaces for adoptive families to be themselves… View Post

Today marks the halfway point of the summer holidays for us: it’s day 20 of 40. It feels like much longer. The words I’m seeing from other adopters are ‘relentless’ and ‘incessant’. These words are used all year round, of course, but the summer seems to amplify those feelings because culturally it is supposed to be a holiday. It isn’t. It’s six weeks of dysregulated children being given nice things… View Post

Now the summer holidays are well underway, are you running out of ideas to keep the children busy? Don’t panic! Here are 50 of my favourite sanity-saving holiday activities. Visit the library. Build Lego models. Go hunting for new games in the charity shops. Make a den under the table/behind the sofa. Decorate the path/patio with chalk. Have scooter races. Write postcards to your family and friends. Make junk models… View Post

Clothes… suncream… weighted blanket? What are your essentials when taking anxious children away from home? As the school holidays get underway, here’s an updated post from the archives for those about to embark on holidays with adopted children. Here goes… We’re off on holiday this weekend and the packing is underway. It’ll be our fifth holiday with the girls and I have a mental list of things we need to… View Post

The end-of-term transition anxiety has kicked in here this week. The dysregulation has moved up several notches. Both the girls are tired. There have been lots of tears and slammed doors and shouting about how terrible we are followed by apologies and more tears and cuddles and a bit more wailing and then calm (more-or-less). Time to break out a few more of my tried and tested sensory activities to… View Post