I now have a rather marvellous new members’ Facebook group as well as the public page. Exciting! The Adoptive Parents’ Self-Care Club Facebook group is a place to talk more about self-care and to cheer each other on. There are questions to discuss, mini self-care challenges, and all sorts of self-care shenanigans to encourage you to look after yourself. Come and join in!… View Post

Many adoptive parents feel that they are constantly living in survival mode. We lurch from one crisis to the next, while trying to set up and maintain a network of support around our children and deal with whatever shenanigans they’ve got themselves into. It’s stressful, and that stress affects us in a range of ways. Find out more about the impact of stress and how to fight back.… View Post

  Pretty much all the adoptive parents I know talk about Christmas with a mix of dread and weary experience as one of the most challenging times of the year. It is certainly that way for us. At times it has been absolutely horrendous. But on balance Christmas 2016 was the best of our Christmasses with the children so far. I’m revisiting this post from post-Christmas 2016 in order to… View Post

Last week was a good week for media coverage of CPV. It helps when you can, as shorthand, say ‘Please listen to last night’s File on 4‘ when you want someone to understand a bit of what it’s like to live with the verbal and physical torrent that pours out of our children. I appreciate that people in positions of power are starting to listen. I’m grateful for media coverage… View Post

At the end of August I participated in a self-care camp run by The Open Nest and The Adoption Social. There’s a piece about it in the October 2017 issue of Adoption Today, which is hitting doormats this weekend. Here’s the longer version of the article I wrote. The Open Nest and The Adoption Social are both legendary in adoption circles as safe spaces for adoptive families to be themselves… View Post