It’s been an exceptionally hard weekend. Today, after another epic violent meltdown, I wrote this email to our post-adoption support team, outlining both the violence and how we feel about our diminishing ability to cope as the severity increases. It seems nothing is working, the help is always excruciatingly slow in coming, and meanwhile we are in the front line, being pelted with our own shoes. Here’s what I wrote…… View Post

Many adoptive families experiencing child-to-parent violence (CPV) speak in glowing terms about Non-Violent Resistance (NVR). Words such as ‘life-changing’ are used – which certainly got my attention. I asked NVR trainer and adoptive mum Sarah Fisher to tell me more.… View Post

Many adoptive parents feel that they are constantly living in survival mode. We lurch from one crisis to the next, while trying to set up and maintain a network of support around our children and deal with whatever shenanigans they’ve got themselves into. It’s stressful, and that stress affects us in a range of ways. Find out more about the impact of stress and how to fight back.… View Post

In the next few weeks, I’ll be developing my resources page into a series of pages with content that’s wider-ranging and more useful to adoptive parents. I’ll be creating pages with free printable downloads to make them easier to share with those who support you (and those you would like to provide support). Here’s a taster of a work in progress: a quick guide to the resources that are available… View Post

Last week was a good week for media coverage of CPV. It helps when you can, as shorthand, say ‘Please listen to last night’s File on 4‘ when you want someone to understand a bit of what it’s like to live with the verbal and physical torrent that pours out of our children. I appreciate that people in positions of power are starting to listen. I’m grateful for media coverage… View Post